Who Is North Bay Marriage?

Jen and I met May 8, 2012 at a friend's house near San Francisco, married 32 days later, and immediately went into business together saving marriages. 

We had each been studying, teaching and training different transformational and psychological modalities for a decade. When we met, it was like mixing 2 ingredients together to create a completely different, highly explosive compound, and nothing would ever be the same.

A few months later in August 2012, we took a client who was a business coach in the transformation industry and got her faster results than anything she had seen industry wide.

She took us under her wing, invited us into the inner circle of the self help world, and made some introductions.

We then worked with another self help leader. And another and another and another, getting sent higher and higher up the chain until we reached the couple at the very top.

 We became known as the trusted fix it crew to clean up the urgent marital messes of celebrities, entrepreneurs, c-suite execs of Fortune 100 companies, transformational leaders, spiritual teachers, and self help gurus. 

Our clients are New York Times best selling authors, guests on Oprah, TV experts, and other types of culture shifting 1 percenters who are supposed to have their stuff together. 

They are the best at what they do, and they won't put up with anyone who isn't the best at what they do. I'm sure you resonate with that as well.

We've been offered 6 tv shows by some of the biggest production companies on television who sought us out because we were well known within the industry.

We never wanted to be famous though, so we turned them down. We just want to focus on our job. This is the only place you'll find us online because we play our cards close to our chest, getting 100% of our clients from word of mouth.

We don't do SEO.

We don't do Ad Words.

We don't do online marketing.

We don't do email marketing.

We aren't on Google.

We are always right where we are, and from now on, that's going to be North Bay.

If you want to get to know us, you'll have to come to an event at our home, because with 5 kids it's tough for us to get out!

Jen was raised on the other side of I-94 in Raymond, and then lived in Racine before moving to California to find Ben. Ben was born and raised in California.

Our first 2 kids were born in California, our 3rd was born in the jungle, and our last 2 were born here in Racine where their mother was born.

Jen's entire family lives here, and Ben's entire family now resides in Florida, so don't expect us to be here in winter! 

At the highest level of what has driven us since we were children, is a never ending quest for truth. We want the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, and we will do anything to get it.

When everything in your life is upside out and inside down, and confusing is an understatement, you would do anything to be able to wrap your head around the highest level of truth in order to move o in peace.

In 2016, our insatiable hunger for truth led us to buy a 200 acre luxury hideaway in the middle of the jungle so we could carefully cultivate a wildly unconventional, outside of the box experience our clients would always remember as a peak experience until the day they died. 

We curated a transformational mecca for couples and groups who came in by the bus load for weeks at a time. The facilities, the lands, and our trained staff allowed us to operate a controlled environment, like a petri dish, in which we could conduct our transformational experiments. 

We are completely, absolutely, intensely committed to our craft at a level you won't find elsewhere. Tell me if I'm wrong...

  After our 10 year stint in the self help industry and our 6 year experiment in the middle of the jungle, we came back to the United States and spent the next 4 years sifting through all the information so we could distill it down to the purest, simplest form.

What was the best a decade ago, is faster and easier now. 

We have simplified it to an input/ output process where you input information, and we run it through a series of filters, frames, reference points and experiences. 

We then output the most productive truths about your life and all the events/actions that led you here, and most importantly the solutions that will become the reality you'll adopt when you notice the situation has already transitioned itself into the marriage you always kinda hoped for but never really thought was possible.

I know all this might seem pretty out there, and I don't disagree with you... We certainly tried some stuff that was pretty out there to say the least, as we were willing to do anything to get the results we were looking for, and I wouldn't take any of it back. Now we know what works and what doesn't. 

I'm sure you'll be happy to hear that what works is deceptively simple, which is why our work is so effortlessly normal at this point. It'll feel about as normal as changing your life possibly could. Doing something new will of course stretch you, but the alternative is staying the same, which will keep you getting what you've been getting. That's just how it works.

It's all very simple, really, but it does take a huge leap of faith on your part.

When you work with us, you're expecting a whole life transformation. Who you are as a person will change for the better in a big way, which is why your partner will be more in love with you than ever.

We go deep... Fast... 

Like a heat seeking missile, honing in on its target, issues have nowhere to hide. 

Like Sherlock Holmes on the case, you know he's going to follow the scent until he reaches the truth of the situation.

We ask questions that give us the complete picture, and in these situations, perspective is what will pull you out of your rut. 

Jen and I each spend up to 12 hours a day thinking about and talking about your case so you can think about other things. That's 24 man hours in a 24 hour period. We're waking up 3x in the middle of the night with insights and revelation. With solutions and next steps you would've never considered because they seem counterintuitive, which honestly is exactly what you need. 

This is how we condense 30 years of therapy into 3 months. 

We become obsessed with not just resolution, but complete transformation. 

We're not content with simply fixing your current issue, because then there's always a chance of the problem returning. 

We are committed to you and your partner witnessing changes in each other you couldn't have genuinely expected to be possible.

The ultimate goal of our work together is to locate what we call your "error in the code," or the "terror in the code."

What is the 1 thing within yourself, that if you changed it, would fix everything?

 Not just in your marriage, but in your life, your business, your contentment, and with your kids. 

That's what we'll be hunting until we find it, trap it and remove it.

We use your marriage woes as a catalyst to change everything forever.

With over a decade of olympic level dedication to our craft, we run circles around your problems with ease. We analyze and process your case from 1000 angles. 

If a solution is possible, we'll figure out what it is. There is no stopping us.