A Million Dollar Marriage

At North Bay Marriage, we believe that if your marriage is unfulfilled in Body, Mind, or Spirit, then you're not operating at your full potential. God's original design for marriage was for you to be One Flesh, One Mind, and One Spirit, and we work with our clients to achieve all 3. 

Let me explain, hopefully in a way that allows you to feel it even more than to understand it.

Before you were conceived, your spirit was, and after you die, your spirit will continue to be. Your spirit is the version of you that you hope to become one day. Some would call it your higher self. Some may even call it your best self or your future self. 

A couple's deepest problems arise as a result of being disconnected from their Spirit, their higher self, or their best self. If you're having problems, it's because your worst self is showing up day to day, and you can't figure out how to get yourself into that place you know you should be. You know you're a good person, but you feel as though your marriage is bringing out the worst in you. 

When you and your partner married, you ignored each other's imperfections and committed to a life of rounding off each other's edges as a process of growing into the best versions of yourselves. This process is more often than not, harder than expected. 

By the time a couple is sitting in our office, they can no longer see each other's spirit, but a distorted version of their spouse they find repulsive. So repulsive in fact, that they are willing to go back on their word by breaking their covenant, and going through the single most miserable, life altering process people ever go through by choice. A divorce.

Nobody chooses a situation where a loved one becomes seriously injured or dies. Nobody chooses to lose their wealth or their business. Nobody chooses to be disgraced, disfigured or handicapped, but people choose divorce all the time. If you were looking at it correctly, you would see that divorce is like all the horrible situations listed above all rolled into 1 because you're actually losing the version of that person you knew they would one day become when you made the decision to tie the knot. They are gone, but so is the entire life you had envisioned ahead of you.

As far as you're concerned, that person you were so in love with is gone. They are dead to you, and all that's left is a disfigured, distorted version of themselves. Like losing your business, you're losing something you invested your blood sweat and tears into.

We work on the spirit aspect first, because when you and your spouse come sit across from us in our office, you see no redeemable qualities in your partner, and they see none in you. 

Therefore our first task is to pull down the blueprint of who you were born to be. Who are you really? What are your strengths that make you the best at what you do? Who did your spouse know you to be when they agreed to marry you? When you're in and on and operating at your full potential, and your partner looks at you with that wide eyed smile, and says "Yes! That's the man I married!" Or "That's the woman I married!..." 

That's when you'll know your marriage is saved, and you'll drive home smiling because the nightmare is over. You're back in.

Imagine it like your spirit is a conceptual version of yourself that is better than you at everything, and they are right up above you like a thought in image form, waiting for you to reach up and pull it down into you so you can become that person now. Your spouse has one above them as well. When the 2 of you are able to see each other's spirit, you will begin to communicate with each other's spirit instead of their humanness. She's not talking to that person she's been blaming everything on, she's now talking to the man she knew you would become when she married you. The man you could only become because she married you. What this does is draw your spirits down into reality more and more as time goes on, rather than continuing to bring out the worst in each other. 

The ultimate goal here is for your spirits to merge, creating a bond that leads the way for your mind and body to continue living into until the day you die. It's like synching up your GPS so you're both driving in the same direction.

Now that you've experienced a complete reorientation of the most important aspects of your life,  everything has become easier because you know where you're going together, but that doesn't mean you'll never experience issues again. 

The 2 of you will be operating as 1 spirit, and in the incredible bond that happens when the 2 of you really see each other for who you truly are deep down like nobody else ever could, buuuuuut...

Your past still exists... 

That's where all your bad habits, disappointments and traumas are lying in wait, ready to burst forth unannounced to ruin the day and ignite that sprint towards crazy town with your partner again. 

It's human nature. Nobody's perfect, and I'm sure your partner would be the first to admit it, right? Maybe about you! Ok sorry, that was a low blow, but I know how to get my point across!

Don't worry though. As soon as we get your spirits in and working together, we immediately begin working on your mind, will and emotions. What you think, what you want, and what you feel can often get in the way of the highest and best timeline. In order to make sure your marriage is fortified to stand the test of time, you must do an in depth process of pulling the weeds.

This is where we go deep into figuring out all of your triggers, raw spots, addictions, and the negative emotions and self talk that swirl around all of it. 

If you've put any thought into your future at all, you have a place in mind you'd like to be in your life. If your spirit/ higher self/ future self  is what is communicating that vision with you, then it's up to your mind, will and emotions to pull the levers so your body can get you there. If someone can't figure out how to get where they want to be, the cause can be traced back to their belief structures, willpower, habits, and emotional states. 

Isn't it just like an old wound to trigger an emotional outburst, grabbing the wheel and yanking to crash the car that would've otherwise reached its destination? That's how people get into these sorts of messes in the first place. Everything seems to be going along fine, until something happens and you lose control of the situation.

You wouldn't even get into the car with someone you thought might just grab the steering wheel at any time, so it's important for you to get your mind, will and emotions in full alignment with your spirit to assure your vehicle gets where it's trying to go. Your vehicle of course being your marriage, and your destination being a long happy life, forever living out your dreams together.

You could also look at it like this. When you're on a long drive, stuck in the car with someone, you want to make sure the conversation is good! Ideally you would be so engaged that you lose track of time. Laughing and connecting, so in flow and in love that you never want it to end.

That's the goal, that both of you become of 1 mind. Not that you think the same thoughts, but that you learn to perfectly compliment each other to create a synergy in your marriage where the 2 of you are infinitely better together than you could ever be apart.

So now that we've got all that sorted out, let's get in the car and drive! And I don't mean driving each other crazy anymore...

If becoming 1 spirit saves your marriage, and becoming 1 mind makes sure it lasts forever, becoming 1 body makes sure it's fun forever as well, adding incredible levels of depth and enjoyment with your favorite person in the world. If you've had trouble in the bedroom before, you won't anymore. Men make love for physical pleasure and physical connection, but for women, lovemaking is about spiritual pleasure and spiritual connection. That's why we start with getting your spirits connected. Then we clear whatever else is in the way by working on the mind. At that point, becoming one flesh is easier than you've ever thought possible because you're all connected already, and making love is a natural part of the progression.

This is where your whole life gets seriously supercharged.

This is the premium unleaded gasoline that will keep your motor running for as many hundreds of miles you have left on your journey. You'll be firing on all cylinders, all revved up and someplace to go!

You didn't realize you owned a Ferrari, but now you know why she wants to go for a drive so bad. Every night is date night when she looks at you with those eyes and says, "Honey, take me for a spin!" She knows she's in good hands. 

All she needed was a little routine maintenance. You went decades without an oil change and the motor blew, but we got her tuned up and souped up, and she's all ready for a road trip.

Steamy metaphors aside, there is something about when a man and a woman merge in body, mind and spirit in their marriage that makes renewed sense out of life. Reality shifts in a way that brings the unseen realms into the seen. Perspective shifts occur that have you looking around noticing things that were there the whole time, but  that you didn't have access to. What were once vague concepts, you can now reach out and grasp with your physical hands. Now tangible, you can hold these things in front of you and they make things feel different. Everything feels different actually. This is where you step into the world of the miraculous.  

The next section is for the man of the house:

Sir, if you've read this far, I want to switch gears and give you a piece of gold that will change everything for you and your wife. Please hear me now like you found a secret section on my page I made just for you, but also like we're now here speaking man to man, face to face. 

I hope you'll read this slowly and take it to heart... If you really want to turn things around with your wife... And remember, this isn't something I put on my website for the lookty loos to read. I'm sitting here at my desk at 9:30 pm on 3/3/2025 writing this as my wife reads in bed around the corner and my little ones run around laughing and playing. I'm writing a personal communication for you to see at a future time exactly when you're ready for it to change everything in your life. I'm going to tell you exactly what your wife needs to understand. It's not in the words, but in the sentiment, so please read it like that. Feel what I'm trying to say here, my heart to yours. Ready? Here it is... 

She wants to know that you think she's worth it. That she's worth everything. That even though you don't have a clue what to do, you'll do anything for her. You'll do anything to save your marriage. She wants to know that divorce is not on the table, and that you'll never mention it again. She needs to know that you've really considered life without her, and that there is nothing appealing about it. You are going to fix this. You're going to fight for her. That's your job as the man. 

She needs to feel a new desire in you to merge with her in body, mind and spirit. Where two become one. A new commitment to spending the rest of your life drawing out the most beautiful, talented and brilliant parts of her. She needs you to acknowledge that you actually need these parts of her in order to get where you're going, and you're rededicating your life to her. Putting her before your hobbies, your friends, your job, your business. 

She is everything to you. 

You're sorry you didn't see it before, and you wish you could take back all the things you've said and did, but you'll make up for all of it with a renewed dedication to doing the work on yourself and making the necessary sacrifices to get your house in order. 

She'll look at life through the lens of before this conversation vs after this conversation and she literally won't even remember the old you. All she knows is this new man, and for her, it feels like this is all she's ever known. Any pain and suffering you 2 have been through can fade to the past, where it acts as a fertilizer to enrich the soil. Nothing more than nutrient dense manure. The most nutrient dense superfood that while you thought it was going to be the death of you, ended up just being the death of the 2 of you as individuals, and the final coming together as a unified body, mind and spirit. 

This is the perfected representation of marriage that your parents might not have had either, but now you'll be able to pass that down to your children so you can watch them thrive in their marriage, head over heals in love with your son or daughter in law. And you can watch them pass it down to your grandchildren as well. 

All this is your reward for being the one to go first. To declare a ceasefire. To wave the white flag and yell, "I surrender! TRUCE!" I love you and I've been a fool. Grab her hand, look her in the eyes. Deeper than that even. Look through her eyes into her spirit. See the most beautiful, perfect version of her, and declare your love for her. 

Let her in on your new plans to only communicate with this perfect soul in front of you now. Feel the atmosphere shifting as unseen forces begin to move on your life. Do you get it now? This state of being is where you'll find your miracle. You won't find it in your head. 

Read it again and learn to communicate within the feeling, because that's where she lives. That's where you'll find her. That's where she's waiting to be found.

If it's a miracle you've been looking for, this is it. We specialize in the miraculous. I hope this was a glimpse into how quickly the mood can shift from impossible to perfect. If you can feel hope inside you now, that's a great start. The goal is Faith though.

If you have more questions, or need help implementing this page in your life, that's what we're here for. Just call or text us. We'll make it easy for you.